Scars

When we were kids sometimes when we used to play outside we’d slip or slide and we’d hurt or scratch ourselves. Some were very painful and bad that they left behind a scar, some were minor and would heal in a day or 2, and once we’d recover we would go for a final check up to the doctor he would give us the go ahead and we’d happily go out and play. 
It’s the same when we’re out working to achieve something. We stumble, we fall, we fail. But we take the hit hard. After years of hard work and perseverance when we don’t get the desired result it pains us. We don’t understand anything we start asking ourselves, what went wrong? what to do? Where do I go now? Why did this happen? , I worked so hard on it. Scars come in different forms, maybe you’ve suffered a major heart break which changes you as a person, you would say “love is bad”, “we shouldn’t love anyone unconditionally”. A major injury that’ll keep you out of your fitness regime “why did I get injured”? “people are lifting heavier in terrible form and they’re just fine” this is life and life is unfair. people take advantage of our good nature and we get betrayed, back stabbed, cheated on. Some of us get injured easily some of us don’t.

I can go on and on about the kind of pain and the scars that we suffer in our lifetime be it physical or mental. But let’s not get into that and I will keep this short and simple.
As we turn adults, we forget, how a child overlooks it so fast and just waits for the day when he’s allowed to go out and play again. How he gets scolded from his teacher and the child says to himself that he’ll do all his homework and assignments and impress his teacher and she’d be very happy and she’d buy him a chocolate. What we can learn from toddlers is that they don’t dwell on anything. They get hurt they feel pain for Awhile then they forget about it, move on and start doing what they do best.

Setbacks! Be it major or minor will hurt adults more than a toddler. Because the adult mind has grown, matured and it’s forced to think logically. Yes we have to mature as we grow! We will have to apply logic when necessary. But there’s no sense on dwelling over a setback, a setback such as failure, heartbreak, betrayal, Emotionally or physically. Things do take time to heal I agree with that a 100% but if we keep dwelling on it we’re wasting our time and our life. Instead of doing something about it most of us just give in and fear failure. This applies to all of us. Some failures leave a scar some don’t and some make us want to be out of action. Fearing failure is the worst thing we could do to ourselves. It could potentially destroy us and make us completely useless. Don’t fear failure. Failure is an amazing teacher and will hold your hand and drag you to success.
Setbacks make us realise that we have people that need our attention and love as well. Sometimes we’re so engrossed in work, our new love life that we forget the people who have been with us through thick and thin. When we were kids, we used to get hurt, first thing we’d do was cry then we’d go to our parents and they’d assure us everything Will be just fine and we’d feel so confident, that once they have said it, means everything will be fine. So if ever in life you face something that pains you and you don’t know what to do, approach the people who mean the most to you, they can be your parents, your friend, your brother or a treasured relative. They will make you realise and assure you that all will be well and there’s nothing to worry about. Cause a person who loves and cares about you genuinely will always be there for you no matter what. So thank your stars if you have someone like that in your life and consider yourself lucky. Most people are fighting tougher battles we don’t know about without any emotional support. Don’t get disheartened if you ever face something like this be with your loved ones and they’ll carry you through. Like they did when you were a child.
“Don’t be ashamed of your scars. They’re just a reminder that you’re stronger than whatever tried to hurt you”.
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